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Save this 3 year old from his abusive mother in Wisconsin!

on April 18, 2012

I am tired of hearing that nobody wants to help my husband’s child. We are tired of not being heard. So since, nobody wants to listen, I will make them listen.

(Added 04/21/12 *apparently the way I write is confusing some people so I now added paragraphs to everything, and wrote a little bit more clearly in some parts since some people have a little bit of a harder time understanding things. And since some people are getting offended by the names of the drugs that I have listed, I will remove the names and just say drugs*)

My husbands ex-girlfriend kicked him out of their child’s life (This child is now 3. She kicked him out of  their lives when the kid just turned 1). Since that moment, she made sure that my husband couldn’t contact her or the child… EVER! Her number kept changing, she moved around a lot (finally settled down with my husband’s father, who backed up the mother over his own son), she has been very unstable for this child. So, my husband finally just gave up trying to fight for a child that, not only the mother was keeping from him, but the whole city (judges, child support, police, etc.) of Eau Claire, Wisconsin as well (only because they believe that a single mother should always have her child no matter what. Doesn’t matter if she does drugs. Doesn’t matter if she doesn’t buy this kid clothes or teach him how to talk. Doesn’t matter if the father has now been in a stable relationship for about 2 years).

One day, my husband gets a call from his family saying that their estranged father needs to speak to him. My husband called him back around midnight and his father told him that he’s paying child support on a kid that the mother doesn’t even have anymore. She moved out of his father’s house (on October 23, 2011) to go live with a bunch of druggies (including her biological father and his gang) in a single bedroom apartment that had 15 people living in it. This kid slept on the floor strapped in his car seat, and in some cases, upside down. Well after about 2 months in that apartment, she and a friend left to go live with a friend of theirs who does drugs as well (she lost her daughter for that reason). While at this house, her child was stuck in a small room all day long while she would be having sex with several different men at all random hours of the day/night. On January 10, 2012, she just got tired of this poor little boy and she held her hands over his mouth and nose. After the kid stopped crying (who knows if he past out or not), she left the house (was getting ready to move… YET AGAIN). The girl she was staying with called her mom to come get this little boy. Luckily, he didn’t die. So this girls mom comes and gets this kid. The kids mother comes back when that is happening and she signed over her rights to this random lady on just a piece of college ruled paper, then signed her name. So now, besides being an attempted murderer, she just added on abandoning her child.

After about a month that this child is with this new lady, she gets tired of him (The day happened to be February 14, 2012). She started to look up, in the phone book, everyone with the same last name of this child in: Barron, Wisconsin – Cameron, Wisconsin – Rice Lake, Wisconsin – Eau Claire, Wisconsin – Chippewa Falls, Wisconsin… and all other surrounding areas. She finally found his grandfather, my husband’s dad. She told him everything that this kids mother did and how he is the child from hell, etc. So like I was saying, my husbands estranged father got a hold of him on February 14, 2012 at about 11pm (left a message for him in his voicemail. He did this as well as call my husbands sisters). The next day, February 15, 2012, we called the Eau Claire child support agency to see if they knew where the mother had disappeared to and if they could stop his child support. They said no to both questions and we had to figure things out on our own. My husband’s step-mother called him and told him that the lady who has his son, has a meeting with one of the Barron County Social Workers on Friday, February 17, 2012. My husband called the number for this place and got a hold of the person who was handling this case. After my husband told her who the child was, who the mother was, that he was the father, and that he wants his child NOW (from the lady who technically kidnapped him), this social worker told him to come up to Barron, Wisconsin on February 17, 2012, to get his kid.

That night we went out and bought everything a child that is 3 would need (we spent over $2000 to get this kid set up and to have everything when we brought him home: bed, clothes, car seat, bath stuff, toys, dishes, diaper bag, etc.). So, Friday, we went up to Barron, WI, with my husband’s lawyer, to get this kid. We had to sit in this “informal meeting” where the social worker pretty much told all of us that the mother has several allegations of child abuse against her. We found out (from the social worker, who told us everything I am about to say here) that she (the mother) tried to smother him, pushed him into a table and gave him a concussion where he was bleeding out, would hold him by the ankles and bang his head on the ground, the list goes on. Everyone was disgusted, but she was smiling like she was proud of herself. She was asked why she did what she did and all she could say was, “well, he wouldn’t shut up, so I put my hand over his face to get him to… like this” and she showed us what she did. Also, during this same “informal meeting” the lady who had my husband’s son was talking about what she, herself, did to this child. After this lady explained how she treated this poor kid, my husband and I just about broke down. He went from 1 abusive home to the next. After a lot of arguing and lies from the mother, we got the child (when we got this child, we were expecting to have some clothes and toys to come with him… all this kid had was a small hoodie, skinny jeans, and boots that were 2 sizes to small). The mother and my husband had to exchange information, and she also sent him a request on “Facebook”.

Well as we were going through her Facebook page once we got back to Illinois, not only did we come across a few threats towards my husband (said by her… The few we saw pretty much stated that she wants to hire a hitman to kill this kids father), but there were a ton of negative comments about him, and comments about some pictures that she posted of this child. The comments were abuse all by themselves, but we went to go look at her photos that she felt the need to say disturbing things about. As my husband and I are looking through these photos, we stumble upon several of this kid in a girls dress with his hair up in a ponytail and full blown makeup on (pink eye shadow, pink blush, and red lipstick), we also stumbled upon several pictures of him with duct tape over his mouth and forced to stay down so his mother could take a picture, and there were a ton of others just as disturbing, but the second we saw the duct tape one, we went nuts. We started to save up everything that could work against her and get her arrested. On March 5, 2012, we had a court hearing for my husband’s child support to stop, for him to get custody of this kid, and for the mother to not have visitation. The commissioner (who will do anything the mother of this child says because he has a thing for single mothers) who knew about the mothers abuse denied my husband sole legal physical placement/custody of the child and gave him temporary placement, and denied the no visitation thing saying, “the mother has every right to see her child and sooner or later, the child will be going back to the mother. therefore, I will only grant you temporary custody until the mother takes a parenting class.” We got mad.

On that same day, we filed a police report against her, but they couldn’t do anything because the case with the social worker was still open. On March 23, 2012 the case was finally closed. We got a piece of paper in the mail saying that the mother was the physical abuser of this child, everything was founded to be true. On March 26, 2012, we took a copy of that paper and went to file another police report. We filed another one in Eau Claire, WI (makes 2 now) and 1 in Cameron, WI (where she currently lives). We gave each place about 20 something pictures, 5 comments from her Facebook that could be used against her, and obviously, a copy of the paper saying she did abuse this child. After a long day in Wisconsin, we went back home to Illinois feeling like something will finally happen. This kid can hopefully get justice now and his abuser will finally get whats coming to her. The next day, March 27, 2012, we went to file for an Order of Protection form here in Illinois, so the mother can’t see him or even call him. That court date got set to April 24, 2012. We now have to wait a month to even see if this kid can be protected against his abuser. Well today is now Tuesday, April 17, 2012. We have called the police stations where we filed reports several times over the past couple of weeks to see where they are at in this investigation. We found out that none of the cities want to work with this case. The abuse for this child has been happening since the mother kicked my husband out of the child’s life. So she was abusing him all over Eau Claire County and Barron County. None of the cities involved want to investigate. The mother has been all over the place while the abuse was happening that each city it did happen in is saying, “nope… didn’t happen here… not our problem!” Well the mother of this child would have gotten arrested earlier, if the social worker would have done her job from the beginning and formally… not informally.

So now, the cops (in Rusk county, where everything got transferred to) are telling us that what she did wasn’t abuse because there were no bruises. When we got this child back in Feb, we took him to Children’s Memorial Hospital in Chicago, and they took pictures of all the bruises that were left over from January. When the mother smothered this kid, she did so much damage to the cartilage in his nose, that he couldn’t breathe through it until just recently. The bruise is still a little bit there now. Anyway, after calling the cops and being told that they won’t do anything, we went above their heads and started calling the DA’s of each city. One DA (the one in Barron county) told us that everything is being worked out in Rice Lake. We called Rice Lake’s DA, but only got a hold of the sheriff who told us, “Putting duct tape on your child is not abuse. Neither is having a cross-dressing child. You can’t do anything if your kid wants to be gay.” First off, the mother forced this child to wear girl’s clothing because she always wanted a daughter and since she didn’t get one, she decided to force her son to be one. This child looked terrified in all of those pictures. He didn’t even know what a boy or girl was until we taught him that he was a boy. We have had this kid for 2 months now, and he can speak so much better. He actually talks now instead of grunting. He uses the potty (still in diapers though), plays outside almost daily, and he ALWAYS has a smile on his face. My husband and I did a court wedding so I could adopt this kid. We figured if the mother signed away her rights once, she would do it again… NOPE! She wants her kid back now. But that will never happen. She might succeed in killing this kid then.

But after talking to DA’s and being shot down, we called the Department of Justice who told us the same thing. From 8am this morning to 5pm this evening, we have been on the phone calling people all day to figure out what is going on. Not one person in Wisconsin wants to arrest this girl for the crime she committed. However, just recently a few months back, a man of a certain ethnicity was arrested for just putting duct tape on his daughter in Chicago, IL and posting it on Facebook. I looked up and down… and all over Google and found 11 cases, just in the US within the past year and a half of parents who got arrested for just duct taping their children… AND THEY GOT CHARGED WITH A FELONY! Most of them were males, 5/11 were of ethnic origins, 6/11 were white. Of those 6, 3 were women… and they were all brunettes. Several people hinted that they won’t arrest the mother because she is a blonde, white, female. That is discrimination. So after finding all of this crap out, and nobody wanting to help us PERIOD, we are going even higher. Tomorrow (April 18, 2012), we will be calling the governors of Wisconsin and anything higher than that until we get heard. For now, the internet is all we have to help us out. Please help our son get the justice he deserves and to not be sent back with his abusive mother! What blows our minds even more, is the fact that the mother said (quoting from a text she sent me), “Duh. I never abused him”… not only do we have a ton of proof of her abusing him… but she is in denial about it. She is delusional!

Pass this on to anyone and everyone! We need to be heard. We need to save this child!Image

http://www.change.org/petitions/save-this-3-year-old-from-his-abusive-mother-help-get-the-mother-in-jail-keep-this-kid-safe


63 responses to “Save this 3 year old from his abusive mother in Wisconsin!

  1. Kaleb Neely says:

    ok how can we make this woman pay

    • I don’t know. Honestly, I’m just trying to spread the word. Maybe if I get loud enough with a lot of help, people might do something.

      • AMotherandGrandmother says:

        We had a grandmother here in Rusk County Wisconsin try and get justice for her granddaughter and her granddaughter’s sister, we had hundreds of people join the FB group she started to get justice, and had a lot of people sign a petition and call the Sheriff’s dept. and the DA. It changed nothing, all it did was anger the DA and the judge, and they threatened to bring charges against the grandmother. I joined the link on FB- War Against Child Abuse-and read everyday stories about horrible abuse, and how little justice there is for our smallest victims. All I can suggest is that you try starting a petition and getting the phone numbers out there for people to call to demand justice for your little boy. Something needs to change, our country should be ashamed by how little we appear to value our children. There needs to be stronger laws against abusing children, just as there are against elder abuse. I wish you luck, and hopefully this little guy will have a happier, safer life from here on out.

      • Rusk county is where the case is getting transferred to, and they keep saying it isn’t abuse. We keep calling barron and let them know, so they keep calling rusk asking them Wtf is going on and they hang up. But barron county and eau Claire county keep saying they can’t help because the abuse happened in rusk. I feel sorry for that grandmother… However if rusk says that they will come after us… BRING IT! We will bring them down so fast.

    • Winthrop Pershing says:

      “Making her pay” isn’t going to save that kid from her. That can come after she (hopefully) loses custody of him.

      Also, I would suggest finding out where that particular judge lives and printing out a flyer that basically explains everything you just posted and going door to door to everyone in the judge’s neighborhood and handing them out. If you have to leave them on their mailboxes be sure not to put them IN the mailboxes as that is illegal. Taping them to the side of the mailbox is okay though.

    • Carin says:

      If you give us the phone numbers to some of the DA’s that you have called we can all call them and fight for your step-son too!

    • Shena Ray says:

      What can people do to help you? I don’t want to see another child abused. If I can help in anyway please let me know!! The child looks very scared in the picture. Why won’t anyone help him?

    • Shena Ray says:

      Are there any updates in this situation? Did you get custody of this poor little boy? I sure hope so.

  2. No one in particular says:

    fuck all that shit
    cut that bitch’s head off
    she deserves to burn for that kind of shit

  3. Justai Cunnian says:

    This is beyond wrong, I wish the best of luck to you. I grew up in a similar situation, and was saved by my father at age 8. I would NEVER want any human being to go through what I went through. .

  4. Winthrop Pershing says:

    You should notify as many local news stations as possible and write to as many local newspapers as possible also.

  5. Renae says:

    This picture should be ENOUGH for SOMEONE to do SOMETHING about this little boys abuser. This monster (by far a mother) should never get her son back, she is not only abusing her son but she’s posting pictures/comments about what she’s done as if she’s proud, how could anyone ignore the obvious? My prayers are with you , keep fighting like you’ve been don’t stop untill justice is served. Get a lawyer, call the Steve wilkos show, whatever possible do it.

  6. brittany says:

    After all I have read I pray to God that women Burns in hell I am a mother of 3 and currently pregnant no baby deserves what she did to that boy I wish I could help you in any means necessary.. I wish the best for you your husband and your son. I thank God that you are saving him from that cruel bi*** and I pray to God this BS justice system we have opens there eyes and sees what they are doing wrong

  7. Gypsy Dancer says:

    Okay so if there is this much proof then why not call Department of Children and Family Services really…This whole thing sounds like someone is just mad. It doesn’t make sense. Sorry.

    • We have. Those were the first people we spoke to and they were the ones that told us to file a police report. Other then that, useless. And we are mad because nobody is helping our child.

      • Tricia says:

        You are helping your child.. not NO ONE. Stay strong & NEVER stop fighting for what you believe in & for your child!!! You are his voice.

    • AMotherandGrandmother says:

      Unbelievably, it happens everyday in this country, the smallest victims have very little value in our justice system. I suggest everyone should join the FB page War Against Child Abuse, and read the horrific stories that happen EVERYDAY in this country to our children in this country, and how little justice there is for them. I don’t think many people are aware of how little is done in the justice system to the abusers of children in this country. I didn’t realize this myself, until a grandmother in this county tried to get justice for her granddaughter and her granddaughter’s sister. They had to airlift her granddaughter’s sister for severe head trauma, found meth in the house, and evidence of neglect. Guess what charges were filed? NONE………not even possession……the case is closed. Not only that, the judge and the DA in this county threatened to file charges against the grandmother because they were angry that she had started a FB page and a petition for justice for those babies, they were getting a lot of phone calls demanding justice. This is not an isolated incident…like I said, join the link to War Against Child Abuse, you will be saddened and disgusted by our justice system for the lack of justice and protection our system provides for our smallest treasures. I can’t even read these stories everyday, because it is just so sad, sad that these babies have had to suffer the abuse, and also sad that someone has to start a group and go on FB to push for justice for them. I join these groups and sign these petitions to try to help these frustrated, heartbroken families of the victims get justice. There are laws for special circumstances for Elder Abuse, why do we not have these same laws for special circumstances against abuse against our most vulnerable?

  8. sam says:

    this is terrible! They need to take her rights away! And I dont understand why she chooses not to hand him over to the father…she obviously doesnt care about him anyway…she gives him up when “shes” had enough…rediculous! unless shes just keeping him for the child support which I could see her doing that bc shes a peice of crap! hope everything works out and he gets a home where he is loved.

  9. Christina H. says:

    Im sorry you all had to and still have to go through this. Have u thought about calling or contacting like Dr. Phil or 20/20 or something like that? I can’t believe that someone could do that to their child. I really hope she gets what she really deserves. Glad u guys have him.

  10. Stephanie says:

    She is Tiffany Brady? or are you Tiffany Brady? I spread the word through my business page, I have about 2,000 people on there. In SC we usually contact our local news stations and they help get the word out. I can do that for you here and hope someone will report it and help out… I dont know what they can do, but maybe they can get higher authority involved. I have 2 beautiful babies 4 and 2 and I could not treat them that way! They are angels and will have to grow up in a messed up world soon enough, they shouldnt have to grow up before they are ready to, and especially forced by their mom or dad who is supposed to raise them and love them. I am so sorry sweet boy and you are an amazing woman for trying to help him!

    • No I am not Tiffany Brady. She is the mother who abused this child. I am technically this child’s step-mother (Leslie Wojahn). I married the child’s father. Thank you for everything that you plan to do to help.

  11. Stephanie says:

    I also looked her up on FB and her page is private, but her last name is now Sirek

    • I know. But I don’t think her wedding was legalized. The guy she claimed to marry she has only known now for 3 months. And they didn’t get married in a church or through the courts. We saw the pictures before she got rid of my husband on facebook.

  12. Stephanie says:

    I posted it on our news stations website. I wonder if she would accept my friend request… I want to see/share her pictures so bad so people will know what a disgusting person she is!

  13. Brandy says:

    I have recently been involved in 2 nasty custody cases in court…. one of the strongest defenses we have used are pictures!!!! follow this woman around take pictures of the inappropriate illegal things she is doing… hire a private investigator if you can afford it!!!!! do extensive criminal back ground checks! for $150.00 you can get a private investigator to do a muliti-state check….. if someone else takes pictures for you they will HAVE to be willing to testify or the pictures will not be admissible… to prove you were there taking pictures get gas receipts in the town she is in, buy a news paper… statements from other people can not be used unless the person is present! Please feel free to contact me…. I hope you succeed in saving him!!!!

  14. jenny says:

    this is horrible get your story out newspapers, news channels, flyers. everything…something HAS to be done!! If there is anything i can do please let me know! http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000034976980 on fb!!

  15. I’ve shared this on my facebook page… I volunteer for CASA and will phone them in the morning to see if they have suggestions or SOMETHING. They work with abused children daily, so I’m sure they’d know somehting… at least I hope!

  16. did you get anywhere with the calls you made today. if you cant get anywhere there are a few groups on fb that might be able to help you and point you in the right direction look up w.a.c.a. great group and they are always fighting to help kids.

  17. Teresa says:

    You need to get the MEDIA involved. ANY media outlet you can, Just DO IT. Media eats this stuff up and once you start exposing how crooked a government is or a police force, for not arresting child abusers, something will get done, because they have to protect their image. I suggest you use names, like the social workers names, specific city and town official’s names that you have dealt with, ANYTHING. Definitely go with the media though. I live in Rockford, IL and I’ve recently contacted our local news station about a story and it was covered. So I’m sure something like this can DEFINITELY get some media attention. Once the cameras start rolling, everyone starts moving. Prayers to you and yours.

  18. Deb Hardin says:

    My husband is going through a similar situation here in Arkansas. He got custody of his two girls in 2004 when the mother let her boyfriend crawl in bed with his oldest daughter who was eight years old at the time. The court system let the mother have supervised visitation with her mother who could never control what her own daughter did.
    In 2009 his oldest daughter, now 13, began sneaking boys through her window when her dad would go to sleep, trying to run around town without checking I with her dad and he had numerous confrontations with her about her behavior. She then climbed out her window and went to the police station and told them her dad beat her. She had bruised her face and scratched her chest up to convince them it was true. The police were aware of her behavior because my husband had already had them there when the boy had climbed in the window and when he had found her in town and made her come home. The police told him to come get her and he replied to them that he wanted her to go to his mothers or to foster care. He was concerned that if she could say that her would beat her what would she say next. His daughter picked to go to foster care, she wanted to live with her mother and was convinced that she would end up in her care if she went to foster care first. She ended up with my husband mother anyway as she had the most stable environment.
    My husband and I got together right after these incidents occurred and was married a few months later. We decided to bring his 9 yr old home with us and the mother hired a lawyer and got a emergency ex parte order and took her away from us for six weeks and wouldn’t let us talk to her or see her at all. We hired a private investigator and got all the mothers records we could find. She had numerous shoplifting, resisting arrest, and had went to jail for beating one of her boyfriends son 15 times in the face. When we got to court they placed her in my husbands mothers care because of the incident with his oldest child and the judge told the mother in open court she wasn’t a fit mother. The court papers say the mother’s visits were to be supervised at her mothers home and my husband’s visits are at his mothers discretion which the mother completely ignores.
    At this point in time the oldest daughter was pulling the same thing on my husbands mother and she hired an attorney to try to get her put in a home so she could be counseled and supervised. The DHS stepped in and put her in the care of the maternal grandparents and she ended up pregnant within a month. Pregnant at 15 and just gave birth to a premature boy a few days ago.
    A father has no recourse at all when it comes to their children in our state. There are incidents of unfit mothers getting total control of their children and are totally arrogant about it. My husband got no help at all, the DHS, even when provided with Facebook pages, police records and other forms of proof are totally for mothers and NOT the children who are suffering for it.
    I feel for this family, their situation is way worse but unless our Department of Human Service system is revamped, the fathers in our society cannot protect their children.

  19. Toni Vinson says:

    Here is a thought to hopefully get heard and have justice for that little boy. Have you tried to send all of the proof and information into national news companies? Also I would try using talk shows to get noticed I have seen some people do this I’m not sure of the shows but I would just send it to all of them. One of them has to care enough to do something and get it on television. I do wish you the best of luck and hopefully much success

  20. Toni Vinson says:

    This is the Link to Contact the Steve Wilkos Show it does also give you the option to call the producers… Really hope it helps
    http://www.stevewilkos.com/ask-steve.php

  21. Faith Johnson says:

    I am a mother of a 3 and a 4 year old (one boy one girl) and there is no way in HELL I would ever treat my children even a FRACTION of the way this woman did. I don’t know a lot about the system, but I do know that Child Protective Services should be involved. It’s usually in the Human Resources Department facility building.

    She may not get all she deserves, but karma is a bitch and the afterlife can handle it after that….

  22. Lori says:

    You may try contacting the Nancy Grace show she’s always trying to prevent child abuse. She may have ideas you haven’t tried, just a thought!

  23. Christa says:

    Start a petition at Change.org and SHARE SHARE SHARE, trust me, it brings TONS of things into the LIGHT.

  24. Barbara Hahn says:

    I will be glad to help out her in denver if you need me to do anything im here for your precious son and for you and your husband also

  25. Shannon Brady says:

    You both sound so upstanding and righteous about this little boy…..but lets review some FACTS before we start calling for the death penalty. This “poor little boy’s” father refused to get a job and support the family while she was pregnant,or after the boy was born, or after they broke up. what an upstanding father (deadbeat dad). He pawned property that wasn’t his to pawn to buy who knows what…. or maybe it was to buy things for the other woman he got pregnant at the same time..(I wonder if that may be why they broke up?). He did nothing to prevent them getting evicted from their apartment because that would mean he would have to get off his lazy rear end and WORK!!! After the break up, she lived with his father and step mom, and NO child support came. She got a job, worked hard, and NO child support came (DEAD BEAT DAD). HE claimed the boy wasn’t his son, demanded a DNA test, didn’t show up, was forced to respond to his own demand to be proven the father. He still would not get a job to pay child support until faced with prison for non payment of child support. Then and only then did the child support trickle in. but what about the other son? does he claim that one yet? pay child support? acknowledge his existance? OF COURSE NOT….HE IS THE PERFECT DEAD BEAT DAD!!! Now then… lets hear some FACTS about the mom of this little boy. While in high school she did use drugs, AND GOT OFF THEM.
    She did let her son wear a dress to a costume party at daycare, but the boy picked out what he wanted to wear. He liked to wear it and would put it on when ever he could. But maybe poor little deadbeat-homophobe dad would have been able to force the boy into a spiderman costume after all… oh wait.. he wasn’t even claiming to be the dad then. When the mom lost her job and had no place else to stay she did move in with her biological father…but maybe some child support would have prevented that from happening….I still wonder where those payments were (deadbeat dads pocket?). And when the mother was at the limit of her frustration over finances, potty training, job hunting, the childs biting people, visits with a speech therapist, she put her hand over his face to get him quiet and was so frightened at what she had done she separated herself from him until she found out why that happened. Then this wonderful loving, caring, giving, father (deadbeat, won’t acknowledge his children because he may have to pay child support and get a job) steps in to save the day. My only question is….WHO IS PROTECTING THIS BOY FROM YOU AND HIS FATHER???? the father says the child sleeps about 14 hours a day… is that normal for a 3 year old? when do you think you or the father will finally get a job???? or do you both plan on living off your mother forever? collect wellfare? be a drain on society? who knows… but lets all get on the bandwagon totally blaming the mother for any problems the child may have. I personally will trust the legal system and I pray to God each day for my grandson’s protection and happiness. I also pray for his brother by that other woman that your husband conveniently ignores, denies, doesn’t support.

    • Ladies and gentlemen… please welcome Tiffany Brady’s adoptive father!!!! *clap clap clap*

      I had sent this man an email to reply to his comments… he got mad that I didn’t post it for all of you to see. I was going to except for the fact that I was on my HTC evo phone at the time. It just takes too long and emails are basically the easiest thing to do on that phone. Now that I am sitting at a computer, this man can have his wish of getting what he wanted. I will post my reply to this that was said in email as well as his reply and mine back to it. Comment however you all wish to! Everything that I said, will be in bold :D
      ————————————-

      First off, you only have 1 side of the story. And her side of the story has PROVEN to be LIES. She can manipulate any person she damn well pleases. It is sad how she got you wrapped around her finger as well. Now let me reply to your comment one step at a time.

      You both sound so upstanding and righteous about this little boy…..but lets review some FACTS before we start calling for the death penalty. This “poor little boy’s” father refused to get a job and support the family while she was pregnant,or after the boy was born, or after they broke up. what an upstanding father (deadbeat dad).
      And who told you all of this? Tiffany? Wow. Well first, Jason had a job when Tiffany was pregnant and when he was with her. I can pull up his resume and show you. After Drayden was born, Jason was caught up on his payments until he moved to Illinois to live with me. Rockford, IL is known to have no jobs. So instead, he went to school to get a better job that pays more. This way he can always support his children. And They didn’t really “break up” Tiffany kicked him out of the apartment that JASON was paying for because Tiffany didn’t want to get off of her lazy ass to do anything else.

      He pawned property that wasn’t his to pawn to buy who knows what…. or maybe it was to buy things for the other woman he got pregnant at the same time..(I wonder if that may be why they broke up?).
      Hahaha, all of the stuff that went missing or that you claim got “pawned” was because of Tiffany wanting money for her drug habit. Wouldn’t be the first time. She put all of Drayden’s things into storage and didn’t want to pay for it so all of his stuff is now gone. Not just that, but all of the money that Jason has paid in child support, she used for whatever the hell she wanted to use it for. It was never on Drayden, i can tell you that much! Explain to me why a 3 year old would still be wearing clothing for a 1 year old? Explain to me why he never had toys unless it was from JASON’S side of the family? Yeah, you can’t! And he never bought anything for the “other woman” he got pregnant. They worked together and that was how they met. The reason why she got pregnant was because when Jason and Tiffany took a “break” he went to this other woman. *this part removed to keep the identity of the other mother confidential. This does not involve her* Now… If anyone in the relationship was cheating, it was Tiffany. Jason has proof of this. He not only saw her sending out the emails, but SHE ADMITTED IT TO HIM! She cheated on Jason with 7 other men. Can you read that? 7!!!!! I find that to be nasty and whorish!

      He did nothing to prevent them getting evicted from their apartment because that would mean he would have to get off his lazy rear end and WORK!!!
      How would you expect him to pay for the apartment when YOUR DAUGHTER kicked him out? She kicked him out in January of 2010. She got evicted in APRIL! Hence why the apartment company went after her to pay for it because she didn’t want to… neither did the 2 friends of hers she invited to live there and bum off of Jason for free. You want their names… I can tell you both of their names! Wow, bet that was another thing you didn’t know about your “oh so innocent Tiffany.”

      After the break up, she lived with his father and step mom, and NO child support came.
      We have the statements proving child support was paid. If she told you she never had money, she lied… wow that seems to be a reoccurring bad habit. May be a trait from her biological druggy doing parents!

      She got a job, worked hard, and NO child support came (DEAD BEAT DAD).
      Again, he was paying… and she did get a job because 249 dollars every month wasn’t enough for her to buy cocaine or marijuana.

      HE claimed the boy wasn’t his son, demanded a DNA test, didn’t show up, was forced to respond to his own demand to be proven the father.
      Hang on, let me finish laughing at this one. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH! *breath* HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Okay, now this is what actually happened, and we have more than enough witnesses who heard this! Jason had called Tiffany and asked to see his son. She said no. He asked her why and she said, let me quote this, “He is not your son. I slept with a ton of other men and he belongs to one of them. You want to see this kid, PROVE he is yours. Get a paternity test!” So that is exactly what we did. We got a lawyer, our lawyer set up the meeting, and we went on the day that it was set up which was JUNE 26, 2010. We drove up to Eau Claire, WI. Tiffany showed up late and once she saw us there she started to freak out, smashed Drayden’s head into the counter, and stumbled out of the room. She then called Jason’s father to show up and “save her” As she sat there balling like a baby because Jason actually took her up on her threat! So he is the father, he asked tiffany to see Drayden again and she said “FUCK YOU!” and then changed her number. Jason got a job after the college semester ended and in August we moved to Dekalb, so I could get my bachelor’s degree. We are still currently in Dekalb, and Jason got another job in Dekalb. The season ended for that job in Dekalb, and he was released. What is funny though is he was paying money to Tiffany when she DIDN’T even have DRAYDEN! We were giving her money for what? More cocaine? I know she did it around this child… how else would he know how to say COCAINE flawlessly… this kid couldn’t speak a damn word but he did know how to say COCAINE. I wonder why… OH YEAH… TIFFANY DOES IT!

      He still would not get a job to pay child support until faced with prison for non payment of child support. Then and only then did the child support trickle in.
      The reason why he got faced with prison wasn’t because he “wasn’t paying” it was because Dan Hannafin said he never got any of the job applications we were sending him… by the time we re-sent them to him, everything got dropped because jason was doing what he was suppose too.

      but what about the other son? does he claim that one yet? pay child support? acknowledge his existance? OF COURSE NOT….HE IS THE PERFECT DEAD BEAT DAD!!!
      Yes he does! He knows of his existence and everything. Child support gets paid for this too! The only difference is, THE MOTHER OF THIS CHILD ISN’T ABUSIVE!!!! We have proof that Tiffany is… we have proof that she tried to murder your “grandson”

      Now then… lets hear some FACTS about the mom of this little boy. While in high school she did use drugs, AND GOT OFF THEM.
      Not true. If she “got off of them” then why was she doing them while pregnant with Drayden? Jason witnessed this and told her to cut it out before she kills the child… hm… might explain why he was born underweight! DRUGS DO THAT! Drugs also cause delays in speech development! Hm… so not only did Drayden have that working against him, but he also had Tiffany never helping him learn new words. And also, she pulled him out of FREE WELFARE speech therapy.

      She did let her son wear a dress to a costume party at daycare, but the boy picked out what he wanted to wear. He liked to wear it and would put it on when ever he could. But maybe poor little deadbeat-homophobe dad would have been able to force the boy into a spiderman costume after all… oh wait.. he wasn’t even claiming to be the dad then.
      We have the picture of him at Daycare in the BLUE dress. But explain to me this. Why would she go buy a pink dress and force him to wear that and makeup? That wasn’t his halloween costume! She also brought him out in public to get a professional photo of him taken like that! Drayden hates the color pink. He hates dresses and everything girlie. So this was forced on him because she always wanted a little girl. She tried making Drayden somthing he wasn’t. GAY! I understand your daughter is bisexual… but she does not need to force that on a child who has no clue what GAY even is. You are also an accomplice to her abuse for saying it was okay for her to do! Wow… no wonder she is so messed up!

      When the mom lost her job and had no place else to stay she did move in with her biological father…but maybe some child support would have prevented that from happening….I still wonder where those payments were (deadbeat dads pocket?).
      She lost her job because she never went to work. She called out almost everyday and they got tired of her not showing. Jason’s father was getting tired of her being lazy and sitting on her ass all day at his house. She finally got tired of him telling her to clean up after herself that she finally left. It wasn’t because of money. It was because she wanted to be lazy and nobody would allow her to be. And at the time she moved out, she was getting money from Jason!

      And when the mother was at the limit of her frustration over finances, potty training, job hunting, the childs biting people, visits with a speech therapist, she put her hand over his face to get him quiet and was so frightened at what she had done she separated herself from him until she found out why that happened.
      The only reason why Tiffany would be frustrated over finances, it would be because she spent all of the money she had on drugs. Drayden wasn’t potty trained, and he never showed a sign of it until he was with us and we got him to be potty trained. You don’t potty train a child the way tiffany tried to. I quote this because She told this to Jason and Myself when she was handing Drayden over to us. “If he wont pee on the toilet, get naked in front of him and show him how to do it yourself.” OH MY GOD! That is nasty! You NEVER do that! I would be afraid to go pee, too if I had to see that every time! That is frightening!

      Then this wonderful loving, caring, giving, father (deadbeat, won’t acknowledge his children because he may have to pay child support and get a job) steps in to save the day.
      He stepped in because he finally found out what was going on with the son that Tiffany made sure she kept hidden from him. She changed her number 5 times within the 2 years Jason and I were together. That is ridiculous! She wanted Jason to have nothing to do with Drayden!

      My only question is….WHO IS PROTECTING THIS BOY FROM YOU AND HIS FATHER????
      This child is loved now. He is NEVER abused now. Why would people need to protect him from us? He finally has a stable home!

      the father says the child sleeps about 14 hours a day… is that normal for a 3 year old?
      Yes it is normal. Look it up. All psychology books say it is normal. Plus, if a child NEVER had any sleep due to not having his own bed, he will sleep that long. Tiffany had him sleeping for longer! 12 hours at night, and she had him taking 2 naps about 2-3 hours a piece! We have that written down in his birth to 3 records.

      when do you think you or the father will finally get a job????
      Jason will have a new job in Rockford at the end of this month. I will have one by monday. Let’s see you go to school full-time (from 8am-5pm) and obtain a degree and then have a place want to hire you from 6-8pm at night… you will never find a job.

      or do you both plan on living off your mother forever?
      Hahaha. we live on our own. We saved up our money from left over financial aid. I plan and save with my money. Your daughter sure doesnt!

      collect wellfare? be a drain on society?
      we aren’t on welfare. Tiffany is. She is 3rd generation welfare. So your daughter is a drain on society. Good to know!

      who knows… but lets all get on the bandwagon totally blaming the mother for any problems the child may have. I personally will trust the legal system and I pray to God each day for my grandson’s protection and happiness.
      Well the legal system proves that she is abusive. Would you like a copy of the paper saying she abused drayden and it is in his best interest to not be with her? And thank you for praying to God. God brought him to safety. And this child finally smiles… another thing to THANK GOD for. He never did with tiffany. He always flinches and everything when we saw him around her. Poor kid.

      I also pray for his brother by that other woman that your husband conveniently ignores, denies, doesn’t support.
      Jason does support him. And he is in good hands. No need to take a child from a mother who is WONDERFUL with a child.

      So before you go insane on me like your daughter did with Drayden… make sure you know both sides before hand. Have a wonderful night.
      -Leslie

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      AND HIS REPLY:

      I ses you to be entirely gutless as well as a delusional liar yoursef.. Don’t want to share opinions with others that don’t agree with your manipulative lies to protect that deadbeat? What does it say about you that you won’t share with the ones you are trying to put against Tiffany other oppinions? Are you such a spoiled little girl that you want things only your way? Afraid what people will think if you let them see what others say?
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      My reply back:

      I will be posting it even though everything you had to say was irrelevant to her abusing Drayden. I just need to not be on my phone when I do it. And I will reply to it with exactly what I sent you. So, that way, everyone can see how trashy not only Tiffany is, but her entire family too (and how her family all support and admire an abuser). And you couldn’t reply to what I had to say to you? Or are you waiting to start drama when I do post it publicly? Or are you speechless because of everything your adoptive daughter does/has done? I am not trying to be rude to you or anyone in her family… I just want justice for a child that was almost murdered by his insane drug induced mother. I understand backing up family, that is what you are suppose to do, all I’m trying to tell you is that you don’t know the entire story. Whether you think I am lying or not, that is your call. I will know the truth because I have the facts and the truth. Tiffany got jasons own father to turn against him because of her lies… When we showed him proof of everything, he got mad that Tiffany lied. So like I said before, if you want the proof, I will show you everything. The only thing Jason wasn’t caught up on was the birthing costs because he had to pay all 4,000 of it and he has about 900 left for that, which is actually illegal… We will be going after her for that as well. If you want to call and talk to me reasonably and willing to cooperate, we can have a nice conversation about facts, and maybe settle this argument. Otherwise, if you just want to sit there and harass me, I will call the cops.

      -Leslie
      815-***-****

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      He hasn’t said anything back yet… comments people???

      • and we have a reply! everything that is quoted is from him. I am yet again in bold!
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        “I Have no fear that a court of law will prove that you are not telling that truth. I responded to a PUBLIC forum. You contacted me. learn about the laws of harassment before you spout more accusations. Remember innocent until proven guilty… or doesn’t that apply to people that disagree with you.”

        Your daughter was proven guilty. Everything was founded… all of the abuse and everything. Are you so dense that you cannot understand that? I am telling the truth about her and everything she did. I hope you enjoy being manipulated by the person you tried to save from a horrible family. I understand she has had a rough life, but that gives her NO right to take it out on a child. You can’t save everyone. Some people are meant to be evil and some are meant to do Satan’s work. She was chosen for that. Might explain why she is “Wiccan” or “Atheist” which ever one of those wanna be religions is “IN” now-a-days. When she gets arrested for her crimes, hopefully you wont be so blinded. You would think a person who was raped by one of her own family members would learn to stay away from that family and would learn to take better care of her child as well as herself so no danger would come to them. She only uses that story for sympathy because she knows it gets people to feel sorry for her. I am too smart for her manipulation game. Just because I am 22, does not mean that I don’t know what I am talking about. When I get the transcript from this “informal meeting” that was held, I will copy it for you so you can see what was said about your daughter and how she is abusive. Too bad you couldn’t have done anything to help her out. I can’t imagine how you feel knowing you let your adopted daughter down.

        And technically, you are following me through my blog, therefore, it shows that you are now STALKING me and the things I have to say. So I contacted you to reply to your comments about my husband and his children. Most people would like to be replied to privately, but I will make sure EVERYTHING stays public… therefore, it is not harassment on my end. Your end however, can be considered harassment… especially since you are stalking me on my blog about Drayden’s abuser. Have a nice life.

        -Leslie

        P.S. this is the last message you will get from me. Everything else will start being public.

    • Loretta Brunsman says:

      Wow Shannon Brady! I can not believe that you can be so blinded, manipulated and deceived by your own daughter, Tiffany. She is obviously lying to you about physically abusing her son. She needs psychiatric help. You should support her to get counseling for her mental instability, her manipulation, and her habitual lying. Do you not think that placing duct tape over a child’s mouth is abuse? Do you not see the proof of the letter from Child Protective Services stating that on multiple occasions Tiffany Brady abused her son. Child Protective Services has labeled her a maltreater of children! I suppose Child Protective Services is lying too! Everyone is lying but Tiffany!!! WAKE UP !!!!!!! Stop being so ignorant and blinded!

  26. They should lock this mother up for what she did to that poor baby

  27. Brandy says:

    You don’t have to post this but from a legal point of view be careful about everything you say…. This Blog will be used against you in court I guarantee it…. Tiffany’s dad is gonna print it as it goes and it will be presented in court…. remember to always be the better parent, everything you say and do in any public forum has to be considered to protect that baby and he needs you!!!! If he goes back to his mom you will likely never see him again.

  28. jackie says:

    Sadly, Wisconsin is horrid with children’s welfare..a friend of mine is going through all this as well and EVERYTIME he does anything, he is arrested. It’s sad that this state doesn’t think a single father could do better than the mother 1/2 of the time

  29. Marie says:

    As far as Wisconsin goes, the law allows for the abuse of children. UNTIL a child is horribly abused, nothing will be done and they use the law to explain that. But that is essentially the laws throughout our country. A child has to suffer from frequent bruising (though they refuse to define this) broken bones, burns , life threatening injury, etc. before something is done. You then get the excuse that a parent does not want to hurt their child, they lose control sometimes. For my granddaughter I never got an answer as to when mother lost control. They cannot tell you at what point in the 68+ bruises on a 23 month old is “losing control”. A grade 4 liver laceration is life threatening, actually my granddaughter was almost beaten to death. But oh Wisconsin, no charges, a parenting class and all is well. Had she DIED THINGS would have been done DIFFERENTLY. And more abuse occurs after the fact with her other children, my granddaughter is with her father, safe, she just didn’t want her, finally no visits after forced visits by the state and court. A grandson has had some abuse issues, but alas, here in Wisconsin a judge says DO NOT REPORT UNTIL IT IS SEVERE (a pattern of abuse and punching a child in the stomach, an entire hand bruised into a childs arm is not bad) and the judge is related to one of our legislators. So until the politicians in this country realize that the people that vote them into their jobs have had enough of the child abuse nothing will change. The voices need to be many and loud to change the laws, a challenge that seems a whole lot don’t want to fight for. sad our country views children this way.

  30. Patti says:

    I’m going to sign the petition. He’s such a cute little boy. U hope you both will be able to keep him.. I wish I could help somehow. That mother needs to be shot for abusing him.

  31. Do you have a faceboook page?

  32. lee says:

    If you haven’t already find a good lawyer. You can make calls 24/7 and never will be taken seriously. Hiring a lawyer shows you mean buisness and will not stop until something is done. Contact child advocate groups they will also point you in the right direction.

    • Trust me, we had 2 great lawyers. Bio mom now is screwed. After the run around from wisconsin, and bio mom constantly cancelling our court dates in wisconsin… it made everything easier for us after a year. She made no contact with Drayden, her son in over a year now and it allowed us to establish his residency in illinois to get everything transferred to il. So on september 11, 2013, everything is transferred here, she disnt show up to fight anything cause she is on the run from the state, and owes about 13k in child support now. I could care less about the money, as lobg as I adopt this little boy in the next month, we are fine. Her rights are going to be terminated in about a week or so. :) our lawyer rocks.

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